Introduce yourself! Who are you? What should we call you?
Hello, Hola and Takaji! I’m Ignacio Rivera aka Papí Coxxx. You can call me Ignacio, IG or Papí. I was conceived on the island of Boriken (aka Puerto Rico) and raised in the “melting pot” of Brooklyn, New York–currently living in Baltimore, Maryland. I identify as a Black Boricua Taíno. In addition to English, I speak Spanish (sometimes Spanglish), small amount of the Taíno language (still learning), and some sign language. I’m 40-something. I’m a pensive person, sometimes to a fault. I’m a libra always struggling to balance the scales. I’d like to think I’m a compassionate person, a community oriented person, a mentor, a friend and a person who likes the simple things. I struggle with anxiety disorder and PTSD. I’m a survivor. I’m sober and I’m spiritual. I’m also known for a variety of other things. I’m an activist, writer, filmmaker, educator, sex(uality) liberationist, sex worker, performance artist and mother.
If you are a Cis/non trans person and you describe yourself as such among other Cis/non trans people then you are actually being a fantastic Trans ally because this identification causes others to shift their perspective on gender and they may actually start understanding that Cis/people aren’t the center of the universe. This is a fact: The way that we speak and our social, legal and institutional structure is based on the concept of a gender binary.
The fact that you are a “gay man” is because of this gender binary.
The truth is, the binary is a lie that excludes an overlooked and underserved community of people.
There are many different kinds of intersex people.
There are many different kinds of transgender people.
This word, “cis-gender” has no real weight or consequences associated with it.
Currently, Gender Disphoria is STILL in the DSM V as a mental illness.
“Cis-gender” is not in the DSM V as a mental illness it’s not even a term most people have heard of.
The word, “cis-gender” is actually more accurate than simply saying, “man” or “woman.”
If you can say that you are a “man” or a “woman” and other people like your doctor, teacher, religious leader, parent and government believe you, then you have a privilege that transgender and intersex people don’t have and you probably don’t grasp how exponentially difficult your life would be if you were not simply a “man” or “woman”. In fact, a lot of transgender people decide to not live authentically because it is not safe to do so.
In response to this article, gay men are not the enemy. However, they have the most prominent and booming voice in the LGBTQ community and the most privilege. Simply walking down the street without a shirt on and not getting arrested or censored seems insignificant to them but is not an option for trans people or women. Many trans guys get top surgery just to have a taste of this privilege and it’s a lot of money, time and institutional hoops to jump through just to have the experience of feeling the wind on their chest.
My sincere request to you, dear author is, please do not retaliate about trans people referring to you as “Cis”, because this is just another platform for you to take up even more space.
Honestly, the most powerful action that you can do to help combat transphobia and be an ally, is not have an opinion on this one issue.
Please, shut your mouth, sit on your hands, open your ears, listen to someone else and not take it personally.
I want to see the photos before the transition to see how you were before, curiosity
At first I was hesitant to post a picture of myself before I transitioned to be male, and then I was like, whatever, I’m proud of my old life as a girl. Fun facts about me: I used to work for Mary Kay and wear clip-on pony tails.
why do you wear that piece of jewelry in the middle of yr forehead like a bindi?
It is like a bindi and for me it represents the third eye chakra/pineal glad. It’s actually a surface piercing and I wear it because I’m a witch and I like shiny things. As a Dominant and a performer it is also useful to distract people and get them to stare at my face ;)