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I’m furious about this article-It’s “Cick!”

I’m just furious about this article. I think there needs to be a new term, “Cick” This is a classification of people who are having dysphoria about their Cis-gender identity

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/j-nelson-aviance/i-am-not-cisgendered_b_5598113.html?utm_hp_ref=gay-voices&ir=Gay+Voices

Here is my response:

 If you are a Cis/non trans person and you describe yourself as such among other Cis/non trans people then you are actually being a fantastic Trans ally because this identification causes others to shift their perspective on gender and they may actually start understanding that Cis/people aren’t the center of the universe. This is a fact: The way that we speak and our social, legal and institutional structure is based on the concept of a gender binary.

The fact that you are a “gay man” is because of this gender binary.

The truth is, the binary is a lie that excludes an overlooked and underserved community of people.

There are many different kinds of intersex people.

There are many different kinds of transgender people.

This word, “cis-gender” has no real weight or consequences associated with it.

Currently, Gender Disphoria is STILL in the DSM V as a mental illness.

“Cis-gender” is not in the DSM V as a mental illness it’s not even a term most people have heard of.

The word, “cis-gender” is actually more accurate than simply saying, “man” or “woman.”

If you can say that you are a “man” or a “woman” and other people like your doctor, teacher, religious leader, parent and government believe you, then you have a privilege that transgender and intersex people don’t have and you probably don’t grasp how exponentially difficult your life would be if you were not simply a “man” or “woman”. In fact, a lot of transgender people decide to not live authentically because it is not safe to do so.

In response to this article, gay men are not the enemy. However, they have the most prominent and booming voice in the LGBTQ community and the most privilege. Simply walking down the street without a shirt on and not getting arrested or censored seems insignificant to them but is not an option for trans people or women. Many trans guys get top surgery just to have a taste of this privilege and it’s a lot of money, time and institutional hoops to jump through just to have the experience of feeling the wind on their chest.

My sincere request to you, dear author is, please do not retaliate about trans people referring to you as “Cis”, because this is just another platform for you to take up even more space.

Honestly, the most powerful action that you can do to help combat transphobia and be an ally, is not have an opinion on this one issue.

Please, shut your mouth, sit on your hands, open your ears, listen to someone else and not take it personally.


I feel so excited to read an article that described one of my films as: “Jacques LeFemme and Papi Coxxx dismantle the patriarchy in episode 163 of The Crash Pad Series.” This film will screen at the Rad Pride Collective presents Peep Show: Queer and Feminist Porn Screening Monday, July 21 at 8pmParentheses Gallery, 2168 Gottingen St
Here is the article:
http://www.thecoast.ca/halifax/a-peak-into-peep-shows-porn-screening/Content?oid=4370332
I feel so excited to read an article that described one of my films as: “Jacques LeFemme and Papi Coxxx dismantle the patriarchy in episode 163 of The Crash Pad Series.” This film will screen at the Rad Pride Collective presents Peep Show: Queer and Feminist Porn Screening Monday, July 21 at 8pm
Parentheses Gallery, 2168 Gottingen St
Here is the article:

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